Tuesday, January 3, 2012

She is 17 and I'm 22 she lied about her age. But now I am stuck because I love her.?

met my girl on a online MMORPG, we started talking as friends for about 2 months. She told me she loved the way I was and I told her that I really liked her to. This is my first serious relationship I have never been the settle down type, just the get in and get out no offense to anyone. So I asked her out, and she said yes but she stressed that it would be difficult because she lives three hours and a half away and her parents might not approve. I was not to worried about it because she was 18 or at least she said she was.... I was 20 at the time. So we continued talking and were in a very pleasant relationship so we decided to meet two months later in person. We both new that when we met it would make or break the relationship. I saw her for the first time and I truly new with all my heart that I loved this girl. It was one of the best days in my life. We had planned on meeting her parents the following day so we went to church in the morning and then we on our away to her house when she got a phone call saying that the parents were not going to be able to meet. I thought nothing of it at first and I was pretty upset because I wanted to meet her father and mother, because being on good terms with them was important to me. So I was not able to meet them I drove back home, when I arrived my girlfriend called me sobbing saying that her father said to end the relationship and not speak to me ever again. I was completely and utterly confused because she is 18 years old and she does not need her parents permission to date a 20 year old man. So here is when it gets bad, after a lot of thinking on my part I finally figured it out she was not 18, she was 17. So I asked her."Baby, are you 17 years old? is that why your dad is upset?" Well she said yes and that made a lot of things in our relationship clearer. She said if I wanted to leave her she would understand, and I explained to her that I was madly in love. And that I would do no such thing, I said I would wait the year for her to be of age so that we can be together. I stressed to her that honesty was key with me and I never wanted her to keep some thing so big from me ever again, I would always understand is what I told her and she said alright. Well, the relationship was back to normal if you would call it that, I love her death and I believed she did love me as well with all my heart. 3 months later I asked her for her face book information to look up one of my buddies. She never had a problem giving it to me in the past but strangely enough she did have a problem this time. It made me curious as to why she would have a problem with it and I got this pain in the pit of my stomach telling me some thing was wrong. So I pushed the situation until she finally broke down in tears again and revealed to me that she was actually 16......At this point I had a few tears come out of my eyes and I was just telling me self and asking god to please help me with the situation that I have put my self in. I fell in love with this girl but she was 16 and I was 21, I knew how this would look and I have always been against what I am partaking in right now. I asked why did she lie to me, why couldn't she just tell me her real age the first time. She said she was afraid that our love was not strong enough to endure the blow. I held no grudges against her father I looked at it from his perspective and I said to my self, why would a 21 year old man date a 16 year old girl..... You can just imagine how I was feeling at this point I was crushed, I knew I would have to wait another two years now for her to be of age. I made the choice to wait and wait for her I did. Until a few weeks ago when she said that their is to much stress in her life right now to balance our relationship, she says she is still in love with me but would like to be friends until we can physically be together, she said she would wait for me the 10 months and she hopes that I will also wait for her. I was not a easy boyfriend I was controlling to an extent at times, I really did work on the things she said bothered her about me. But in the end I guess the long distance really did just get to us we were really emotionally numb and she requested a break some thing I really did not want but I accepted anyways. The break was for both of us is what she said,"taking a step back, to take a leap forward" was her exact words. So now here I am still crazy in love with her but not knowing what to do. I don't know what to expect by posting this here, but maybe some one else going through the same thing can gain some peace in knowing they aren't the only ones who have gone through some thing like this. I also wanted to say that, nothing but good has come from this girl she has motivated me in may ways and had pushed me to better my self. I just feel like, I maybe pushed her away with lack of trust. Sense I was living the lies she told me everyday. I still love her very much, but I am not sur

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